Predator Next Door – Part III

Backstory

I wrote it down.  I sent the story to the woman, Laura from Say It, Survivor.

And I called the police station in my town.  The chief answered the phone.  There are no coincidences…

1st Opinion

The police chief heard me out, the abridged version of the story.  And then this is what I remember that he said, obviously not in this exact order and you have to picture me interjecting when he asks me questions…”You are 100% correct.  Your instincts as a Mother are never wrong. Everything about this story is wrong.  Everything points to that man being a sexual predator of children.  I want his name.  Where does he work.  Address.  Don’t doubt yourself.   It sounds as though you are doubting yourself, why?  Where does your husband stand?  What does he want?  Proof?  There is no proof with these types of cases, unless it’s too late and then there’s the type of proof you don’t ever want to think about.  Stay away from them.  You can’t accuse him, but you can tell them why you don’t want to be in contact with them and you can tell your neighbors with small children why you are no longer in contact with them.  I can write up a report if you want.  It just goes on file.  I can send a cruiser there to make sure that he never talks to your family again.  Talk to your husband about how you want to handle it.  In the meantime, let me put you in touch with Child Advocate Center to talk to them about how to talk to your Beach Rose.”

2nd Opinion

Laura wrote me back and this is some of what she wrote…

“I think there are red flags all over this situation- it made me anxious just reading about it.  If it were me, I would not have any contact with them outside of a wave across the driveway.  I’d rather be uncomfortable about it as an adult than have my child violated, wouldn’t you?  And I think you need to have a conversation with your Beach Rose.
I strongly recommend you check out The Mama Bear Effect for how to talk to your kids about body safety.
At the end of the day, your best defense against your child being sexually abused is her relationship with you.  She needs to know that she can come to you with anything, that you have her back, that you will do anything in the world to support and protect her.  And if something *has* happened, be mindful of how you receive that news- if you act like it is the end of the world she will believe you.  If something has happened, let her know she is safe, believed and protected.
We have those maternal instincts for a reason and we ignore them not only at our own peril, but at the expense of our children’s well-being.”
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